Speak Polite, Not Just Correct â The Social Side of German You Didnât Learn in A1
So you know how to say âGuten Tagâ, âIch heiĂeâŠâ, and âWo ist die Toilette?â
Great. But do you know how to say:
âExcuse me for interrupting.â
âCould you please go ahead?â
âThanks for your patience.â
âBless you!â when someone sneezes?
Germans are not overly small-talky, but they do expect you to follow basic etiquette â and use the right polite phrases in the right moment.
In this guide, youâll learn the real-life, unspoken etiquette phrases Germans use daily â in the office, on the street, in shops, or even in elevators. These aren’t in your average textbook, but using them makes you instantly more likeable and fluent.
đŹ Why Etiquette German Matters
- Germans appreciate formality + clarity
- Politeness is expected, not optional
- You avoid sounding abrupt, rude, or robotic
- It shows you’re not just learning the language â you’re respecting the culture
The words are small. The impact is big.
đââïž Common Courtesy Phrases (Beyond âBitteâ and âDankeâ)
German Phrase | Meaning | When to Use It |
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Entschuldigung, darf ich kurz stören? | Excuse me, may I interrupt? | Entering a room, asking someone for help |
Könnten Sie bitte kurz zur Seite gehen? | Could you please step aside? | In public transport, elevators |
Ich danke Ihnen fĂŒr Ihre Geduld. | Thank you for your patience | Customer service, business settings |
Ich weiĂ das wirklich zu schĂ€tzen. | I truly appreciate it | More heartfelt than just âDankeâ |
Angenehm. | Pleasure to meet you | After introductions (formal) |
Guten Appetit! | Enjoy your meal | Before someone eats |
Gesundheit! | Bless you! (after sneezing) | Basic but expected |
Ich wĂŒnsche Ihnen einen schönen Tag! | I wish you a nice day | End of emails, calls, customer interactions |
Ganz meinerseits. | The pleasure is mine | Classy response to Angenehm |
Nach Ihnen. | After you / Go ahead | Doors, queues, elevators |
đ€ Things Germans Wonât Say, But Expect
- Donât cut into a conversation without âEntschuldigung.â
- Donât say just âHalloâ in business â say âGuten Tagâ or âGrĂŒĂ Sieâ
- Donât expect to hear âHow are you?â â itâs not small-talk land
- Donât leave a room without âTschĂŒssâ, âSchönen Tag noch!â or âBis spĂ€ter!â
Being blunt in German isnât about rudeness â but skipping these phrases can make you seem cold or inconsiderate.
đŒ German Office Etiquette Phrases
Phrase | When to Use |
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Ich wollte nur kurz fragen, ob… | Gentle way to ask something |
WÀren Sie so nett und könnten⊠| Very polite request |
Ich melde mich spĂ€ter noch einmal. | Iâll follow up later |
Ich wĂŒnsche ein schönes Wochenende. | Friday sign-off |
Gerne. | Youâre welcome / Gladly |
đŻ Pro tip: Duzen vs Siezen â use âSieâ with anyone you donât know well or in formal settings. Always.
đȘ Social Situations: Everyday Politeness
Situation | What to Say |
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Sneezing | Gesundheit! |
Holding a door | Bitte schön! or Nach Ihnen. |
Stepping on someoneâs foot | Oh, Entschuldigung! |
Offering a seat | Möchten Sie sich setzen? |
Waiting in line | Sind Sie der/die Letzte? (Are you last?) |
Saying goodbye | Machâs gut! / Schönen Abend noch! |
đ§ Bonus: Email Sign-Offs That Donât Sound Robotic
German | Meaning / Vibe |
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Mit freundlichen GrĂŒĂen | Formal, standard |
Beste GrĂŒĂe | Semi-formal, modern |
Viele GrĂŒĂe | Friendly and neutral |
Herzliche GrĂŒĂe | Warm and slightly emotional |
Schöne Woche noch! | Nice week â casual, kind |
Avoid âLiebe GrĂŒĂeâ unless you’re already close with the person â itâs warm but personal.
đ§ How to Practice Etiquette German
- Write common phrases in your phone notes â pull them out in real situations
- Watch German YouTubers or talk shows â see how people soften tone with certain phrases
- Use them in emails, texts, and small interactions â yes, even on WhatsApp
- Observe native speakers â Germans are quiet but intentional
đ§Ÿ Final Thought: Politeness Isnât About Being Perfect â Just Aware
Germans donât expect foreigners to speak perfect German. But they do appreciate when you:
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Acknowledge people
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Speak with respect
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Use the right words at the right time
These are the small phrases that smooth out conversations, earn respect, and help you blend in â without needing a C1 certificate.